When we incorporate Parts Work into our everyday language we can begin to see and experience challenges differently. Instead of: 🖤 “I am such an angry mother” try♥️ “A part of me is feeling very angry towards…”(and listen to all that Angry Part has to show you about your unmet needs) Instead of: 🖤”I feel… Continue reading On Parts Work (IFS, Internal Family Systems)
Category: Mothering
On rituals
I have been digging deep into Ritual work and gathering more and more evidence on the profound role ritual plays in our lives. Ritual is any gesture done with intention and with emotion. And the effects, when ritual is done from the heart and is well contained and held by a trusted and safe other,… Continue reading On rituals
A little poem about MotherWound
Mother, by Aleksandra Staneva I love weaving stories from both my clients and also those parts that resonate with my own experience. With love, Aleksandra
Perinatal mental health week – what I wish I knew back then…
Today we wrap up Perinatal Mental Health week here in Australia, and the recognition of the critical care that new mothers and families need during pregnancy and early motherhood. I would argue that this care needs to be stretched from before conception to late/teenage motherhood (the one I find myself in right now). However, let’s… Continue reading Perinatal mental health week – what I wish I knew back then…
Boys to men, and the mending of souls
My husband teaching our son how to 🧵 sew! I always thought I would naturally be the one who teaches these “softer” skills while men in my son’s life would be the ones to pass on the hard ones. Wrong! This is how we change outdated traditionalist beliefs that boys should not bother with skills… Continue reading Boys to men, and the mending of souls
Befriending Anger
A frequent friend that visits my Counselling practice is Anger. It is always unwelcome, feared, dreaded, or exiled. And of course Anger does not appreciate its closeted state. It rumbles and tumbles. It scratches and escapes at the most unexpected situations. It can be explosive, hurtful and dangerous, especially to more vulnerable parts of ourselves,… Continue reading Befriending Anger
Addiction and disconnection
My son asked me this morning “What comes to your mind when you hear the word addiction?” Well… disconnection, I said, and my heart sunk a bit deeper. We have been talking A LOT about gaming and screen time in the last year. Like a lot! It has taken us so much energy to even… Continue reading Addiction and disconnection
Boys and the need for the Feminine
The men of the next generation who need to be sensitive, expressive, nonviolent, respectful, assertive and loving of women… The role of parents and MOTHERS today is big, heavy with responsibility. Especially when it sits outside of the traditional way to bring up boys who are tough, macho, sportsy, with accepted “boys will be boys”… Continue reading Boys and the need for the Feminine
On mothers and sons
Early days of my pregnancy, I was hoping for a daughter. I believed that with a girl-child, I could connect more, pass on the feminine wisdom, do all things that we women do, teach her about how the body works, what love feels like, how to hold the needles and the knife, how to write… Continue reading On mothers and sons
On Maternal Ambivalence
Some reflections on one the most contentious topics when it comes to motherhood, in the form of plaques. 🌹 with love, Aleks
