Here’s the thing about expectations…I look like I am about to make a really meaningful post about life and parenting and finding the silver lining in shitty situations BUT …. (With the risk of sounding really ozzie) yeah nah! I planned ‘the perfect day’ for our little family of 3, which lately feels like a… Continue reading The “perfect family day”
Category: About me
Lockdown Self-compassion
🖤Lockdown🖤Sitting with lots of Inner Activation. 💜Recognizing All that is present for my Inner world right now. All the discomfort. Disappointment. Disconnection. Dreams undone. The turmoil. Not trying to change it. Just giving it a name. A good label. Some air. 💜Allowing it All to be. Just as it is. Painful. Unfair. Hopeless. Raw. Triggering.… Continue reading Lockdown Self-compassion
Boys to men, and the mending of souls
My husband teaching our son how to 🧵 sew! I always thought I would naturally be the one who teaches these “softer” skills while men in my son’s life would be the ones to pass on the hard ones. Wrong! This is how we change outdated traditionalist beliefs that boys should not bother with skills… Continue reading Boys to men, and the mending of souls
This belongs…this belongs
My partner took this image of me when we snuck in a coffee together before work and right after doing the school drop off. It felt big for many reasons. Both personal and collective. I have been in and out of the Covid vortex and the exhaustion felt too real. In my bones. The fear,… Continue reading This belongs…this belongs
On Mothering without the Village
The horror of COVID 19 for our family was not about getting infected and not making it, or losing work that much, or closing my practice. It wasn’t about missing our families in Europe and saying goodbye to another year that we couldn’t go back to visit…It wasn’t about dreading the homeschooling and being stuck… Continue reading On Mothering without the Village
On the need and the power of Rituals
The importance and need for ritual has been pushed away from dominant cultural norms. If primitive men and women engaged in rituals on a regular basis and acknowledged and celebrated each milestone with a proper rite of passage, modern humans deliberately and mindlessly bypass such parts of life, deeming them outdated, wishy-washy, and just unnecessary.… Continue reading On the need and the power of Rituals
On hearing the call towards transformation and healing
🌿On hearing the call to change🌿 Take some time to reflect on what it means to transform, heal, change, grow... Where does it even begin? The whispers from within that tell you: “Hmm, I wonder what would it feel like if I wasn’t in a constant state of vigilance, anxiety, fear?” “I wonder what is… Continue reading On hearing the call towards transformation and healing
Motherhood: my hardest quest and my best guide on self-awareness
It’s about 12 years ago, during my pregnancy, when I remember engaging with my parenting model for the first time, from a much different perspective. I was full of questions about my own way of parening. Who would I be in a few months? I remember filling journal pages with the Mother I saw my… Continue reading Motherhood: my hardest quest and my best guide on self-awareness
On cultivating a Forgiving Heart
💔What does Forgiveness look like for you?💔 Cultivating a forgiving heart is surely an endless, slow, deep-reaching and highly transformative process. Sitting with, facing, working with and embracing trauma is hard. Healing is a cyclic process. Transformation can happen suddenly, in a highly insightful moment, and also, and much more often, as a result of… Continue reading On cultivating a Forgiving Heart
On mornings with mySelf
I don’t know how you love to spend your early mornings but I am going to share my routine of wellness which has supported me from early motherhood through mothering an almost 12-year old. Although many ways of doing and being have changed since then, and everything is logistically easier, my mental space is equally… Continue reading On mornings with mySelf
Aleksandra Staneva, PhD 