Ah Mother’s Day! Every year, as I lay quietly in my bed way before the boys are up to ‘surprise me’, I ponder about the journey it’s been. The word journey doesn’t seem to cut it though…more of an abrupt end of one journey…into something inexplicable. It’s my 15th year into the inexplicable. It’s my… Continue reading Ah another Mother’s day
Tag: Mothering
Self-led Parenting
Parenting is a tough gig. It’s something that stays forever, and the rewards come in rather unexpected ways, and with a huge delay sometimes. Parenting can also bring to the surface unexplained amounts of shame, guilt, and self-doubt. Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy has been a greatly helpful approach in healing layers of shame and… Continue reading Self-led Parenting
Hard to love
Sometimes I write poetry. It drips out of me. This is a poem inspired by my work with trauma. Just like trauma, this poem sits in the unspoken, uncomfortable space where we struggle to see the light. PS I love writing but I get quite impatient when it comes to editing so these poems are… Continue reading Hard to love
‘No Trauma Mama’ Perinatal Wellness
NO TRAUMA MAMA is a Perinatal Wellness Support Bundle I wished I had back when I was embarking on my Motherhood journey! A safe space to share, discuss, brainstorm, feel, sense, cry, process in preparation for your MAMAhood. No Trauma Mama Bundle This is a package of therapy sessions and support for expecting mothers! It's… Continue reading ‘No Trauma Mama’ Perinatal Wellness
B!tch hour for mothers!
Ever felt like there is so much of your Motherhood experience that you wanted to share about yet you never felt safe to do so?!! Always censoring yourself? Always bookending your experience with … “oh but I love it so much” There are tons of reasons why we dread going there in the thick of… Continue reading B!tch hour for mothers!
Inner Child circle
It’s no secret that the ways in which we were mothered (and parented) affects us for life. We can choose to remain unconscious about it and allow this to continue to impact on our🌻 intimate relationships through attachment wounds🌻 parenting and thus perpetuating the same wounding onto our children and their children too🌻the way we… Continue reading Inner Child circle
So have you heard of IFS yet?
✨✨✨Celebrating the BIG and SMALL victories! And this one feels huge! HORÓ Counselling has added a powerful tool to her (mine, that’s a bit weird) treasure chest of magic! In the last year and a half I have been training, and mastering my craft of healing, care, support, transformation and magic ✨ It has been… Continue reading So have you heard of IFS yet?
Mothering during a pandemic – book chapter
📚 A brand new chapter!!! It is a part this epic collection On Mothering during a Pandemic. This chapter is dedicated to all the mamas I interviewed as part of my research role at Peach Tree Perinatal Wellness who shared with me the Good, the Bad and the Ugly! I took a small part of… Continue reading Mothering during a pandemic – book chapter
Motherhood and the Ivory tower of Academia
Mothers in Academia…oh what a topic! Riddled with controversy. This graduation day is a micro representation of the ambivalent emotions I felt all throughout my research work, starting in 2010 with my Master of Research in Psychology. My then 7 year old son on PhD graduation day My story sits outside of the “modern academic… Continue reading Motherhood and the Ivory tower of Academia
On Soul work and the Feminine
I see a lot of women in my practice. Mothers on the verge.Transitioning into the unknown of motherhood, alone and unprepared. Or more so, unequipped and wrongly conditioned by a culture of intensive mothering, unattainable standards or push to ‘perform’ motherhood. Daughters filled with rage.Burning anger. Destructive anger.Creative anger. Boredom. Unhappiness. Trauma. Irritability. Disconnection. Loss… Continue reading On Soul work and the Feminine
Aleksandra Staneva, PhD 