Ah Mother’s Day! Every year, as I lay quietly in my bed way before the boys are up to ‘surprise me’, I ponder about the journey it’s been. The word journey doesn’t seem to cut it though…more of an abrupt end of one journey…into something inexplicable. It’s my 15th year into the inexplicable. It’s my… Continue reading Ah another Mother’s day
Category: lived experiences
The “perfect family day”
Here’s the thing about expectations…I look like I am about to make a really meaningful post about life and parenting and finding the silver lining in shitty situations BUT …. (With the risk of sounding really ozzie) yeah nah! I planned ‘the perfect day’ for our little family of 3, which lately feels like a… Continue reading The “perfect family day”
Self-led Parenting
Parenting is a tough gig. It’s something that stays forever, and the rewards come in rather unexpected ways, and with a huge delay sometimes. Parenting can also bring to the surface unexplained amounts of shame, guilt, and self-doubt. Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy has been a greatly helpful approach in healing layers of shame and… Continue reading Self-led Parenting
Hard to love
Sometimes I write poetry. It drips out of me. This is a poem inspired by my work with trauma. Just like trauma, this poem sits in the unspoken, uncomfortable space where we struggle to see the light. PS I love writing but I get quite impatient when it comes to editing so these poems are… Continue reading Hard to love
‘No Trauma Mama’ Perinatal Wellness
NO TRAUMA MAMA is a Perinatal Wellness Support Bundle I wished I had back when I was embarking on my Motherhood journey! A safe space to share, discuss, brainstorm, feel, sense, cry, process in preparation for your MAMAhood. No Trauma Mama Bundle This is a package of therapy sessions and support for expecting mothers! It's… Continue reading ‘No Trauma Mama’ Perinatal Wellness
Online ‘Inner Child’ Masterclass
“It’s never too late to have a happy childhood” Gabor MatéThis is a 3-hour Workshop that explores our Inner World, attachment wounds, and offers a compassionate insight into our past. •Inner Child•Neglect and Abandonment•Selfcare and healing Join me in exploring a beautiful Inuit fairytale through therapeutic storytelling, authentic connection, and safe sharing. --ABOUT YOUR FACILITATOR--… Continue reading Online ‘Inner Child’ Masterclass
On •Self• in Motherhood
Within the IFS (Internal Family System) framework of therapy (and doing life for me, really) the idea of the Self (with capital S) takes a central stage. It’s our seat of consciousness, our Inner Golden Buddha nature, our endless well of light, our wisest, highest, and truest “I”. 🌀Self is beyond words and definitions however… Continue reading On •Self• in Motherhood
B!tch hour for mothers!
Ever felt like there is so much of your Motherhood experience that you wanted to share about yet you never felt safe to do so?!! Always censoring yourself? Always bookending your experience with … “oh but I love it so much” There are tons of reasons why we dread going there in the thick of… Continue reading B!tch hour for mothers!
At Home, wherever you are
The state of feeling HOME is key in both my professional client work as well as my personal journey of self-discovery as a nomad woman who continues to seek, move, experience… I both seek the UPROOTEDness and yet I resist it. Yet the concept of Home, of Inner Home is not contingent upon external places…… Continue reading At Home, wherever you are
On Maternal Self-blame
“Maybe you didn’t give him enough love?” I have heard this. It ripped my heart in unbelievable ways… but it also started me on a journey of unpacking where did this come from? Why would mothers even consider shaming one another this way? What are the social conditions that would even make us go that… Continue reading On Maternal Self-blame
Aleksandra Staneva, PhD 