Parenting is a tough gig. It’s something that stays forever, and the rewards come in rather unexpected ways, and with a huge delay sometimes. Parenting can also bring to the surface unexplained amounts of shame, guilt, and self-doubt. Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy has been a greatly helpful approach in healing layers of shame and… Continue reading Self-led Parenting
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Mothering during a pandemic – book chapter
📚 A brand new chapter!!! It is a part this epic collection On Mothering during a Pandemic. This chapter is dedicated to all the mamas I interviewed as part of my research role at Peach Tree Perinatal Wellness who shared with me the Good, the Bad and the Ugly! I took a small part of… Continue reading Mothering during a pandemic – book chapter
on Making our own traditions: Easter
The mismatch and the discrepancy, and the consumerism around Hallmark rabbits with ribbons and (?) chocolate insanity (with all its waste of aluminum and sugar highs) as well as the arrival of autumn 🍂 here in the Southern Hemisphere, are clearly NOT in the way of celebrating Easter here in Australia - essentially a Northern… Continue reading on Making our own traditions: Easter
A woman and her symbols
Do you read through a book differently as time goes? As you change? Doesn’t the book magically change with you? Secretly, while on the shelf, its ink shifting and the story rewriting itself? This is the 4th time I read this book. It’s Jung’s most accessible text and it contains most of the staples of… Continue reading A woman and her symbols
Mother’s day transformations
Oh Mother’s day! Mother’s day has many facets. Like a diamond. Being a Mother is infused with so much energy, it swirls around polarized emotions and representations. From the selfless sacrificial Madonna, to the Death Mother, who usurps and kills parts of us. As you know too well, the Perfect Mother that is emblemized on… Continue reading Mother’s day transformations
Period rant: the baby is OK
Period-care. Day 1. The rant. Had lunch by caring hubby, engaged in Netlix overdose, about 17 hot water bottles, and lots of cat-time. And here come the deep thoughts... Early Motherhood. I used to dread being inactive and in bed, with illness, period or the deadly migraines that are my lifelong companions, when I first… Continue reading Period rant: the baby is OK
Motherhood is hard! Talking helps…
I have a million reasons why speaking up about your worries, concerns, fears and problems can be beneficial. When it comes to Motherhood though, I believe sharing the bad and the ugly, and the not-Insta perfect, can not only normalize your experience, but it can have a long-term and wide-reaching effect on who you become… Continue reading Motherhood is hard! Talking helps…
Perfectly imperfect, thank you!
If nothing was wrong, who would you be? This is this morning’s cup of coffee I just made...When I over-grind the beans our espresso machine cannot take it, it’s just too much for the old lady...and she sputters and protests and spews all over the place, showing me right away that she has her ways...she… Continue reading Perfectly imperfect, thank you!
On the problematic nature of Self-care for Mothers (reflecting on my experiences)
I always bookend posts, discussions and any advice-resembling conversations with the disclaimer that everyone is different. Everyone has different needs, at different times, and during different stages and transitions in life. Everyone has different levels of access to time and resources and I check in with a big P my massive privilege to have the… Continue reading On the problematic nature of Self-care for Mothers (reflecting on my experiences)
Aleksandra Staneva, PhD 