It’s no secret that the ways in which we were mothered (and parented) affects us for life. We can choose to remain unconscious about it and allow this to continue to impact on our🌻 intimate relationships through attachment wounds🌻 parenting and thus perpetuating the same wounding onto our children and their children too🌻the way we… Continue reading Inner Child circle
Tag: Mothering
So have you heard of IFS yet?
✨✨✨Celebrating the BIG and SMALL victories! And this one feels huge! HORÓ Counselling has added a powerful tool to her (mine, that’s a bit weird) treasure chest of magic! In the last year and a half I have been training, and mastering my craft of healing, care, support, transformation and magic ✨ It has been… Continue reading So have you heard of IFS yet?
Mothering during a pandemic – book chapter
📚 A brand new chapter!!! It is a part this epic collection On Mothering during a Pandemic. This chapter is dedicated to all the mamas I interviewed as part of my research role at Peach Tree Perinatal Wellness who shared with me the Good, the Bad and the Ugly! I took a small part of… Continue reading Mothering during a pandemic – book chapter
Motherhood and the Ivory tower of Academia
Mothers in Academia…oh what a topic! Riddled with controversy. This graduation day is a micro representation of the ambivalent emotions I felt all throughout my research work, starting in 2010 with my Master of Research in Psychology. My then 7 year old son on PhD graduation day My story sits outside of the “modern academic… Continue reading Motherhood and the Ivory tower of Academia
On Soul work and the Feminine
I see a lot of women in my practice. Mothers on the verge.Transitioning into the unknown of motherhood, alone and unprepared. Or more so, unequipped and wrongly conditioned by a culture of intensive mothering, unattainable standards or push to ‘perform’ motherhood. Daughters filled with rage.Burning anger. Destructive anger.Creative anger. Boredom. Unhappiness. Trauma. Irritability. Disconnection. Loss… Continue reading On Soul work and the Feminine
Boys to men, and the mending of souls
My husband teaching our son how to 🧵 sew! I always thought I would naturally be the one who teaches these “softer” skills while men in my son’s life would be the ones to pass on the hard ones. Wrong! This is how we change outdated traditionalist beliefs that boys should not bother with skills… Continue reading Boys to men, and the mending of souls
Boys and the need for the Feminine
The men of the next generation who need to be sensitive, expressive, nonviolent, respectful, assertive and loving of women… The role of parents and MOTHERS today is big, heavy with responsibility. Especially when it sits outside of the traditional way to bring up boys who are tough, macho, sportsy, with accepted “boys will be boys”… Continue reading Boys and the need for the Feminine
On mothers and sons
Early days of my pregnancy, I was hoping for a daughter. I believed that with a girl-child, I could connect more, pass on the feminine wisdom, do all things that we women do, teach her about how the body works, what love feels like, how to hold the needles and the knife, how to write… Continue reading On mothers and sons
On Maternal Ambivalence
Some reflections on one the most contentious topics when it comes to motherhood, in the form of plaques. 🌹 with love, Aleks
Podcast: the Soul-Work of Mothering
Fancy that! I was on a podcast with Dr Sophie Brock - The Good Enough Mother, where we had the best chat about: • mothering as Soul Work • Mother Wound and the legacy trauma • Death Mother Complex • Dream analysis • Inner child work • Morning pages All things Feminine: the caring, wild… Continue reading Podcast: the Soul-Work of Mothering
Aleksandra Staneva, PhD - Internal Family Systems & Jung 