At the centre of my work are MOTHERS on the margin. Dark Mothers, Mother Outcast, Mother-Rebels, Fluid Mothers, Un-pin-down-able Mothers. Mothers, who experience depression. Mothers, who feel ambivalent. Mothers, who regret it. Mothers, who drink. Mothers, who resent. Mothers, who smoke during pregnancy. Mothers, who career (that CAN be a verb, right - to career,… Continue reading MotherWound
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On hearing the call towards transformation and healing
🌿On hearing the call to change🌿 Take some time to reflect on what it means to transform, heal, change, grow... Where does it even begin? The whispers from within that tell you: “Hmm, I wonder what would it feel like if I wasn’t in a constant state of vigilance, anxiety, fear?” “I wonder what is… Continue reading On hearing the call towards transformation and healing
Motherhood: my hardest quest and my best guide on self-awareness
It’s about 12 years ago, during my pregnancy, when I remember engaging with my parenting model for the first time, from a much different perspective. I was full of questions about my own way of parening. Who would I be in a few months? I remember filling journal pages with the Mother I saw my… Continue reading Motherhood: my hardest quest and my best guide on self-awareness
On cultivating a Forgiving Heart
💔What does Forgiveness look like for you?💔 Cultivating a forgiving heart is surely an endless, slow, deep-reaching and highly transformative process. Sitting with, facing, working with and embracing trauma is hard. Healing is a cyclic process. Transformation can happen suddenly, in a highly insightful moment, and also, and much more often, as a result of… Continue reading On cultivating a Forgiving Heart
Seizing this morning.
Snuggled up in the early chilling Brisbane morning while the boys are still asleep. A book, a cat and the sunrise. I feel like sometimes I need very little to feel like my cup is full! So simple, right? And then I realize how much is underneath this “small moment of peacefulness”. • Checking my… Continue reading Seizing this morning.
Humming, chanting, gargling – state of social engagement and Polyvagal theory
Just finished Stanley Rosenberg's book Accessing the Healing Power of the Vagus Nerve, super accessible and packed with practical and soooo very applicable advice on assessing the state of mine and clients’ vagus nerve (cranial nerves linked to major functions of the parasympathetic-or rest and digest-nervous system) before and after psychotherapy sessions. In order to… Continue reading Humming, chanting, gargling – state of social engagement and Polyvagal theory
On hibernation
Time to rest, time to hibernate. Not to die but to PAUSE, to acknowledge the cycle of LIFE-DEATH-LIFE. ⭕️ I have, just like all of you probably, been emotionally thrown to a million places: Grief, loss, fear, determination, care, deep connection, anxiety, calm, insights, aloneness, hope, overwhelm, patience, overdoing, impatience, anger, frustration, divination, denial, acceptance,… Continue reading On hibernation
Womb studies
I first explored Raphael-Leff’s theory on Maternal styles (Regulators, Facilitators, Reciprocators, Conflicted) for my Masters thesis in Manchester Uni on Maternal Expectations vs Maternal Reality (and then I looked into the links between these styles and birth complications as part of my Doctorate). It was an exceptional journey of theory, practice and self discovery. I… Continue reading Womb studies
On the power of Dreams
The night before my 39th birthday I had a particularly obfuscated Dream, filled with twists and turns, clutter, low vision, spikes and edges; it was over-populated with people, events... just a whole lot going on. As a started working on one aspect of the Dream, namely 'the birth of three babies of mine, in the… Continue reading On the power of Dreams
Spontaneity days
Today in a really really really long time I did nothing. I had actually planned for it 😂 but it sometimes takes planning to do nothing and it totally worked. To be clear it was not really nothing... I guess by that I mean I relied on spontaneity...hmm what do I want to do now-type… Continue reading Spontaneity days
Aleksandra Staneva, PhD - Internal Family Systems & Jung 