Today in a really really really long time I did nothing. I had actually planned for it 😂 but it sometimes takes planning to do nothing and it totally worked. To be clear it was not really nothing... I guess by that I mean I relied on spontaneity...hmm what do I want to do now-type… Continue reading Spontaneity days
Category: Mothering
reflections from Original Voice, Colorado, 2019
“Might as well be exactly who you are cos half of the world won’t like you anyway” Clarissa Pinkola Estés. Unapologetically. Exactly. Who you are. Original Voice training in the Colorado Mountains with the one and only Dr Clarissa Pinkola Estes, in full autumn 🍂 🍁 where do I begin...? Pictured: Dr Clarissa Pinkola Estés… Continue reading reflections from Original Voice, Colorado, 2019
Cold milk, a poem
Motherhood is hard! Talking helps…
I have a million reasons why speaking up about your worries, concerns, fears and problems can be beneficial. When it comes to Motherhood though, I believe sharing the bad and the ugly, and the not-Insta perfect, can not only normalize your experience, but it can have a long-term and wide-reaching effect on who you become… Continue reading Motherhood is hard! Talking helps…
The Unspeakables: On mothers (not)talking about depression
In my previous post I opened the topic of the "perfect pregnancy" myth with the concept of Unspeakability, a favorite of mine and for many reasons. Here, I will delve further into it sharing my thoughts around a paper I recently published in the Journal of Feminism & Psychology. Although mothers tend to be particularly vocal… Continue reading The Unspeakables: On mothers (not)talking about depression
Perfect Pregnant Woman, deconstructed
One of my favorite academic publications, that came out of my doctoral studies on women who experience psychological distress during their pregnancy, is the one on "Unspeakability". Un-speak-ability. This is a concept which highlights the inability for women to "speak" directly about their distress or about anything dark, depressive, problematic, scary or non-perfect in relation… Continue reading Perfect Pregnant Woman, deconstructed
On the problematic nature of Self-care for Mothers (reflecting on my experiences)
I always bookend posts, discussions and any advice-resembling conversations with the disclaimer that everyone is different. Everyone has different needs, at different times, and during different stages and transitions in life. Everyone has different levels of access to time and resources and I check in with a big P my massive privilege to have the… Continue reading On the problematic nature of Self-care for Mothers (reflecting on my experiences)
Pregnancy distress, all things considered (a summary of findings from my research)
A summary of all factors that contribute to experiencing depression, anxiety or distress during pregnancy (as identified by my research)
Motherhood, uncensored
Hi there. Below is my very fist blog post which contains rambles and quite unacademic (but fully lived) reflections on becoming a mother, fresh of the hospital. I wrote this about 16 years ago... I have to admit that mothering, the big M, transformed me in the most fundamental ways, not ever imaginable. It propelled… Continue reading Motherhood, uncensored
Aleksandra Staneva, PhD - Internal Family Systems & Jung 