lived experiences, Mothering

The reproduction of the Black Mother stereotype.

When I became a new mum I lived in America. At the time a friend of mine had also just had her second baby. She was Black. I don’t remember ever considering that fact. Until one afternoon. We used to go to a local playground together-buzzing with bubbas and mummas from all races, ages and… Continue reading The reproduction of the Black Mother stereotype.

good mother myth, inner child, Lists, lived experiences, Mothering, research, therapy

Parenting well when you haven’t been well parented?

Parenting well when you haven’t been well parented? • Manage your own “baggage” ensuring it doesn’t spill over and pollute your children’s lives. This is usually an unconscious process so waking up to our baggage is a much needed step in our toolbox of care. • Reduce the amount of chronic unpredictable toxic stress in… Continue reading Parenting well when you haven’t been well parented?

Mothering, therapy

MotherWound

At the centre of my work are MOTHERS on the margin. Dark Mothers, Mother Outcast, Mother-Rebels, Fluid Mothers, Un-pin-down-able Mothers. Mothers, who experience depression. Mothers, who feel ambivalent. Mothers, who regret it. Mothers, who drink. Mothers, who resent. Mothers, who smoke during pregnancy. Mothers, who career (that CAN be a verb, right - to career,… Continue reading MotherWound

About me, fairy tales, good mother myth, IFS, inner child, Lists, lived experiences, Mothering, research, therapy, workshops

On hearing the call towards transformation and healing

🌿On hearing the call to change🌿 Take some time to reflect on what it means to transform, heal, change, grow... Where does it even begin? The whispers from within that tell you: “Hmm, I wonder what would it feel like if I wasn’t in a constant state of vigilance, anxiety, fear?” “I wonder what is… Continue reading On hearing the call towards transformation and healing

About me, good mother myth, IFS, inner child, Lists, lived experiences, Mothering, research, therapy

Motherhood: my hardest quest and my best guide on self-awareness

It’s about 12 years ago, during my pregnancy, when I remember engaging with my parenting model for the first time, from a much different perspective. I was full of questions about my own way of parening. Who would I be in a few months? I remember filling journal pages with the Mother I saw my… Continue reading Motherhood: my hardest quest and my best guide on self-awareness

About me, therapy

On cultivating a Forgiving Heart

💔What does Forgiveness look like for you?💔 Cultivating a forgiving heart is surely an endless, slow, deep-reaching and highly transformative process. Sitting with, facing, working with and embracing trauma is hard. Healing is a cyclic process. Transformation can happen suddenly, in a highly insightful moment, and also, and much more often, as a result of… Continue reading On cultivating a Forgiving Heart