When I became a new mum I lived in America. At the time a friend of mine had also just had her second baby. She was Black. I don’t remember ever considering that fact. Until one afternoon. We used to go to a local playground together-buzzing with bubbas and mummas from all races, ages and… Continue reading The reproduction of the Black Mother stereotype.
Author: aleksandrastaneva
Parenting well when you haven’t been well parented?
Parenting well when you haven’t been well parented? • Manage your own “baggage” ensuring it doesn’t spill over and pollute your children’s lives. This is usually an unconscious process so waking up to our baggage is a much needed step in our toolbox of care. • Reduce the amount of chronic unpredictable toxic stress in… Continue reading Parenting well when you haven’t been well parented?
MotherWound
At the centre of my work are MOTHERS on the margin. Dark Mothers, Mother Outcast, Mother-Rebels, Fluid Mothers, Un-pin-down-able Mothers. Mothers, who experience depression. Mothers, who feel ambivalent. Mothers, who regret it. Mothers, who drink. Mothers, who resent. Mothers, who smoke during pregnancy. Mothers, who career (that CAN be a verb, right - to career,… Continue reading MotherWound
On hearing the call towards transformation and healing
🌿On hearing the call to change🌿 Take some time to reflect on what it means to transform, heal, change, grow... Where does it even begin? The whispers from within that tell you: “Hmm, I wonder what would it feel like if I wasn’t in a constant state of vigilance, anxiety, fear?” “I wonder what is… Continue reading On hearing the call towards transformation and healing
Motherhood: my hardest quest and my best guide on self-awareness
It’s about 12 years ago, during my pregnancy, when I remember engaging with my parenting model for the first time, from a much different perspective. I was full of questions about my own way of parening. Who would I be in a few months? I remember filling journal pages with the Mother I saw my… Continue reading Motherhood: my hardest quest and my best guide on self-awareness
On cultivating a Forgiving Heart
💔What does Forgiveness look like for you?💔 Cultivating a forgiving heart is surely an endless, slow, deep-reaching and highly transformative process. Sitting with, facing, working with and embracing trauma is hard. Healing is a cyclic process. Transformation can happen suddenly, in a highly insightful moment, and also, and much more often, as a result of… Continue reading On cultivating a Forgiving Heart
Seizing this morning.
Snuggled up in the early chilling Brisbane morning while the boys are still asleep. A book, a cat and the sunrise. I feel like sometimes I need very little to feel like my cup is full! So simple, right? And then I realize how much is underneath this “small moment of peacefulness”. • Checking my… Continue reading Seizing this morning.
A woman and her symbols
Do you read through a book differently as time goes? As you change? Doesn’t the book magically change with you? Secretly, while on the shelf, its ink shifting and the story rewriting itself? This is the 4th time I read this book. It’s Jung’s most accessible text and it contains most of the staples of… Continue reading A woman and her symbols
Mother’s day transformations
Oh Mother’s day! Mother’s day has many facets. Like a diamond. Being a Mother is infused with so much energy, it swirls around polarized emotions and representations. From the selfless sacrificial Madonna, to the Death Mother, who usurps and kills parts of us. As you know too well, the Perfect Mother that is emblemized on… Continue reading Mother’s day transformations
Period rant: the baby is OK
Period-care. Day 1. The rant. Had lunch by caring hubby, engaged in Netlix overdose, about 17 hot water bottles, and lots of cat-time. And here come the deep thoughts... Early Motherhood. I used to dread being inactive and in bed, with illness, period or the deadly migraines that are my lifelong companions, when I first… Continue reading Period rant: the baby is OK