To my kin with tired bones. Women who have carried too much for too long, listen.
There are seasons when the she-wolf is hunted, exhausted, bones showing through her fur. She runs for years, giving milk when she has none, hunting with empty belly, guarding pups in a storm. Many women live decades like this.
And then, at last, she finds food, warmth, safety. Her fur grows thick again. Her ribs no longer show. She is strong. She is it. Capable. Present. Full. Contained. She lies by the fire and guards her den with a fierceness that will not let anyone in. She does NOT let anyone or anything in. Her cave is sealed.
I have sat with guilt in this space. And I surely witness that often in my therapy practice with women.
Do not be ashamed of this. This is not coldness. This is instinct.
When you feel no urge to answer the phone, when you protect every scrap of time as though it were meat hard won, when you do not fling yourself into every sorrow around you, remember: the starved wolf must first eat and sleep before she can run with the pack again.
This is your season of guarding. Of saying no. Of letting your heart rest from bleeding.
And later, not now but later, you will rise. You will howl again with your sisters. You will give a drop of water, a slice of meat, without fear that the whole carcass will be taken from you.
But first: eat. Rest. Guard your den. You are not heartless. You are healing.
Aleksandra
She, who remembers.
I work at the threshold, where psyche speaks in symbols, and the soul remembers. Rooted in Jungian depth psychology and Internal Family Systems, my work invites women and seekers into the quiet, often forgotten places within: the underworlds of grief, the wild terrain of desire, the sacred chambers of the inner child, inner mother, the Shadowlands, and Self.
With a background in womenās heath research, in ritual, and in lived experience spaces, I do not offer diagnosis or treatment, I offer devotion to the unfolding Self. On the threshold of becoming- where we always are.
Through dreams, parts work, myth, and the body, I walk beside those ready to meet themselves fully, fiercely, and tenderly.
This is not fast work. It is sacred work.
It is not about fixing, it is about remembering.
I do not promise certainty.
I promise presence, and a deep trust in the wisdom already within you.
My work is rooted in the wild: in the seasons and the body, in the wisdom of the land, and in the deep ecology of the soul. I honour the personal as political, and the psychological as inseparable from the cultural. Feminism, ecopsychology, and embodied awareness are not add-ons here, they are the soil this work grows from.
I offer one-on-one soulwork sessions, womenās circles, and immersive psychoeducational experiences that weave together depth psychology, parts work, and embodiment. Some of this work unfolds indoors, some in wild placesāalways with reverence for the wisdom of nature, the nervous system, and the feminine psyche.
Welcome to the HORĆ nest.
I think you might just be ready to re-member your Self.
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Aleksandra Staneva, PhD - Internal Family Systems & Jung 