A frequent friend that visits my Counselling practice is Anger. It is always unwelcome, feared, dreaded, or exiled. And of course Anger does not appreciate its closeted state. It rumbles and tumbles. It scratches and escapes at the most unexpected situations. It can be explosive, hurtful and dangerous, especially to more vulnerable parts of ourselves, and others – who depend on us. Mothers carry that fear deeply and intensely. This fear is key when we get to know more and more about our own definition of Anger.
It has so much to say. About needs.
Injustice.
Unspoken truths.
Pain and hurt, especially acquired during those early days of childhood, when all it needed was someone to hear it out, sit with it, touch it, PAUSE, and teach it what to do, how to express itself in a friendly, constructive way and to stay healthy and at hand.
Not buried or exiled.
Getting to know Anger is never too late. Developing a solid relationship with it is a necessity and a basis for good mental health.
Not only in motherhood but also in life. Oh, but taming it and making BFFs with it, especially when it comes to motherhood, is a must!
Aleksandra
She, who remembers.
I work at the threshold, where psyche speaks in symbols, and the soul remembers. Rooted in Jungian depth psychology and Internal Family Systems, my work invites women and seekers into the quiet, often forgotten places within: the underworlds of grief, the wild terrain of desire, the sacred chambers of the inner child, inner mother, the Shadowlands, and Self.
With a background in women’s heath research, in ritual, and in lived experience spaces, I do not offer diagnosis or treatment, I offer devotion to the unfolding Self. On the threshold of becoming- where we always are.
Through dreams, parts work, myth, and the body, I walk beside those ready to meet themselves fully, fiercely, and tenderly.
This is not fast work. It is sacred work.
It is not about fixing, it is about remembering.
I do not promise certainty.
I promise presence, and a deep trust in the wisdom already within you.
My work is rooted in the wild: in the seasons and the body, in the wisdom of the land, and in the deep ecology of the soul. I honour the personal as political, and the psychological as inseparable from the cultural. Feminism, ecopsychology, and embodied awareness are not add-ons here, they are the soil this work grows from.
I offer one-on-one soulwork sessions, women’s circles, and immersive psychoeducational experiences that weave together depth psychology, parts work, and embodiment. Some of this work unfolds indoors, some in wild places—always with reverence for the wisdom of nature, the nervous system, and the feminine psyche.
Welcome to the HORÓ nest.
I think you might just be ready to re-member your Self.
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Agree, it is definitely important to recognise and accept anger in ourselves, in order to tackle it in an effective way.
Aleksandra Staneva, PhD - Internal Family Systems & Jung 
Agree, it is definitely important to recognise and accept anger in ourselves, in order to tackle it in an effective way.
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