How those early ways of connection with a significant other were set up, continuously affects our adult relationships.
The attachment style you developed as a child based on your relationship with a parent or early caretaker doesn’t have to define your ways of relating to those you love in your adult life.
Although knowing it is the first step to addressing it.
If you come to know your attachment style, you can uncover ways you are defending yourself from getting close and being emotionally connected and work toward forming an “earned secure attachment.”
You can challenge your defenses by choosing a partner with a secure attachment style, and work on developing yourself in that relationship.
Therapy can also be helpful for changing maladaptive attachment patterns. By becoming aware of your attachment style, both you and your partner can challenge the insecurities and fears supported by your age-old working models and develop new styles of attachment for sustaining a satisfying, loving relationship, says attachment expert Lisa Firestone.
Most of all you need to look inwards, see the story, connect the dots, and build a coherent narrative about how life was for you, in order to build the life you have right now.
Aleksandra
She, who remembers.
I work at the threshold, where psyche speaks in symbols, and the soul remembers. Rooted in Jungian depth psychology and Internal Family Systems, my work invites women and seekers into the quiet, often forgotten places within: the underworlds of grief, the wild terrain of desire, the sacred chambers of the inner child, inner mother, the Shadowlands, and Self.
With a background in women’s heath research, in ritual, and in lived experience spaces, I do not offer diagnosis or treatment, I offer devotion to the unfolding Self. On the threshold of becoming- where we always are.
Through dreams, parts work, myth, and the body, I walk beside those ready to meet themselves fully, fiercely, and tenderly.
This is not fast work. It is sacred work.
It is not about fixing, it is about remembering.
I do not promise certainty.
I promise presence, and a deep trust in the wisdom already within you.
My work is rooted in the wild: in the seasons and the body, in the wisdom of the land, and in the deep ecology of the soul. I honour the personal as political, and the psychological as inseparable from the cultural. Feminism, ecopsychology, and embodied awareness are not add-ons here, they are the soil this work grows from.
I offer one-on-one soulwork sessions, women’s circles, and immersive psychoeducational experiences that weave together depth psychology, parts work, and embodiment. Some of this work unfolds indoors, some in wild places—always with reverence for the wisdom of nature, the nervous system, and the feminine psyche.
Welcome to the HORÓ nest.
I think you might just be ready to re-member your Self.
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Aleksandra Staneva, PhD - Internal Family Systems & Jung 